before they had kids, if asked to conjure images of parenthood they would have said things like
“reading in bed,”
“giving a bath,”
“running while holding the seat of a bicycle.”
// parenthood contains such moments of warmth and intimacy, but isn’t them.
it’s cleaning up. the great bulk of family life involves no exchange of love, and no meaning, only fulfillment.
not the fulfillment of feeling fulfilled,
but of fulfilling that which now falls to you.
:: jonathan safran foer
here i am