i want to ask the happiest person in the world whether it was worth it, all the sacrifices he made in order to become so happy. … faq.
if you take a flat map
and move wooden blocks upon it strategically,
the thing looks well, the blocks behave as they should.
the science of war is moving live men like blocks.
and getting the blocks into place at a fixed moment.
but it takes time to mold your men into blocks
and flat maps turn into country where creeks and gullies
hamper your wooden squares.
they stick in the brush,
they are tired and rest, they straggle after ripe blackberries,
and you cannot lift them up in your hand [and] move them. … men into blocks
inner beauty can fade, too
before they had kids, if asked to conjure images of parenthood they would have said things like
“reading in bed,”
“giving a bath,”
“running while holding the seat of a bicycle.”
// parenthood contains such moments of warmth and intimacy, but isn’t them.
it’s cleaning up. the great bulk of family life involves no exchange of love, and no meaning, only fulfillment.
not the fulfillment of feeling fulfilled,
but of fulfilling that which now falls to you.
:: jonathan safran foer
here i am