i want to ask the happiest person in the world whether it was worth it, all the sacrifices he made … More

drink her.

she was the third beer. i. not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; ii. nor … More

wrestle it to the ground

“closeness,” he said, surveying the congregation. “it’s easy to be close, but almost impossible to stay close. think about friends. … More

men into blocks

if you take a flat map and move wooden blocks upon it strategically, the thing looks well, the blocks behave … More

conjure images

before they had kids, if asked to conjure images of parenthood they would have said things like “reading in bed,” … More

each other’s pain

in sickness and in sickness. that is what i wish for you. don’t seek or expect miracles. there are no … More

i picture you

i picture you leaving your coat on the hood. wallet and keys. the crisp envelope.  we all know what it’s … More

at the letting go

if you were wise enough to know that this life would consist mostly of letting go of things you wanted, … More

calcifying my shame

  i wanted to skim over that night, calcifying my shame into something blurry and manageable, like a rumor about … More

let us all unite

i’m sorry, but i don’t want to be an emperor. that’s not my business. i don’t want to rule or … More

compassion asks

compassion asks us to look into our own hearts, discover what gives us pain, » and then refuse « under any circumstance … More

slow pressing

[[song lyrics to no song]] slow, slow pressing on the mouth kiss me on the legs pour into me hold me, … More


everyone now and again wonders about those questions that have no ready answers: first cause, god’s existence, what happens when … More

said and done

there was so much to be said and nothing to be done but nothing was said and too much was … More

fear and suffering

he who fears he shall suffer, already suffers what he fears × michel de montaigne ×

i am angry

“not long ago, i wrote an article about being young and female in lagos. and an acquaintance told me that … More

the curious paradox

// the curious paradox is that: when i accept myself just as I am, then i can change. × carl r. rogers × from … More

maybe it’s not

maybe it’s not really ugly, or b/r/o/k/e/n, or iMpeRfecT. maybe it’s your perspective that’s b/r/o/k/e/n. iMpeRfecTioN is beautiful to a … More

none of it

people will love you. people will hate you. and none of it [ .will have anything to do with you. … More